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No Sense Waiting

November 11, 2010

At least when it comes to forgiveness, as James MacDonald’s calendar thought from yesterday proposes:

Unforgiveness is a waiting game.  We wait for them to come and tell us they’re sorry.  NEWSFLASH: they’re not coming.  You may think about this hurt all the time, but the sad reality is they’re not.  You’re wasting time and energy.  Just forgive them and get on with your life.

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  1. Chris permalink
    November 11, 2010 4:57 PM

    I am sure there is more MacDonald would say on this, but we do need to keep in mind Matthew 18

    Matthew 18:15
    “If your brother sins, go and show him his fault when the two of you are alone. If he listens to you, you have regained your brother. 16 But if he does not listen, take one or two others with you, so that at the testimony of two or three witnesses every matter may be established. 17 If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. If he refuses to listen to the church, treat him like a Gentile or a tax collector.

    I think we are sometimes too quick to short-circuit the relational process God requires. Often people are totally unaware they have even hurt the other person. The focus of both Matt 5 and Matt 18 is for interpersonal communication with the ideal goal of reconciliation. Jesus says “show him his fault” when the two of you are alone. Too often we tell a group of others and never get around to actually telling the person who (sometimes unintentionally or unwittingly) caused the offense.

    I think there is a place for being forgiving and getting on with one’s life, but not until much loooooooooooongsuffering and forbearance and many attempts to talk one-on-one have taken place.

    I wonder how many people who “say” they are forgiving and getting on with their life, are actually saying: “I can’t stand that person and I am tired of trying to love them unconditionally, so I am going to cut them off.” The narrow road of being Christ follower involves denying self, picking up one’s cross, and following Him on the road of forgiving love and daily sacrifice. Being forgiving to those who refuse to admit their sin and never ask forgiveness is one of the hardest roads to travel, yet is the one that led our Savior to Golgotha. Getting on with our lives is okay as long as we are not taking a short cut around the Via Dolorosa!

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